‘You gotta want it’

Cary Valentine believes the book he and his wife wrote can improve relationships.

He’s confident if couples or singles read “In Love Forever: 7 Secrets to a Joyous, Juicy Relationship,” they’ll be better off.

But there is a catch, if you want to call it that.

“You gotta want it. The truth is, if you don’t want it, it’s worthless,” Valentine said.

The author will have a book-signing celebration at “St. Michael’s Church in Lihue Friday from 6:30 p.m. to 8 p.m. The book has been selling well and was named an Amazon best seller this past week.

“In Love Forever” not only delves into couples’ intimate, personal and sometimes vulnerable relationship issues, but offers tools and hope for those who are single and looking for a long-term relationship.

“The tools within this book can truly assist you to create the relationship of your dreams,” Valentine said. “It transforms oneself as well as one’s relationship. This proven system is a relationship game-changer for creating unprecedented levels of passion, love and intimacy.”

He believes it can help couples looking for a tuneup or a major overhaul. Whether a couple is doing well or struggling, “In Love Forever” can guide them to a stronger, deeper relationship so they can have the life together they dream about.

It’s easy to read, easy to understand and easy to use, he said. Relationships, on the other hand, can at times be just the opposite. He has seen it in his own life and in his work as a certified relationship coach. Couples need to be able to laugh, relax and enjoy life and each other.

“It’s a lot of times the little stuff that really challenges a relationship,” the Princeville man said.

That’s why it’s important that couples connect in their lives together. Disagreements and disputes, sometimes over what seem to be minor issues, will arise between couples, he said. Left alone, those issues can become major problems and that can lead to silence and misunderstandings.

“Lots of people need assistance. It’s not the easiest thing to talk about for a lot of people,” he said.

One key to a successful relationship, he said, is having no secrets, being as transparent as possible and being willing to share hopes and fears.

“I know that can be a scary thing,” he said.

He’s glad that “In Love Forever” has found a strong following already and hopes it continues to guide couples to joyous, juicy relationships.

“This book helps you through that process, step by step, to have a deeper, more intimate relationship,” he said.

Proceeds benefit the Lotus Arts Foundation in honor of Wendy Valentine, co-author and Valentine’s late wife. This is a fund-raising effort to assist couples and individuals by providing relationship coaching to those people who are unable to afford such services.

“The Lotus Arts Foundation is excited to offer this program to expand the much-needed coaching assistance couples and singles may be searching for yet, until now, have been unable to attain,” said Valentine, a certified relationship coach, speaker and seminar leader.

Tickets are $25 per person, $40 per couple and are available at the door. For advance tickets, call 346-6652 or email WeCare@InLoveForever.com. The price includes a signed copy of “In Love Forever,” plus pupus, wine and beverages.


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