Aloha Cary, Both our teenagers will soon be at sleepaway camp for two weeks and my wife and I will be home alone. We could use some romantic renewal time from our busy life. We enjoy each other’s company yet
Aloha Cary,
Both our teenagers will soon be at sleepaway camp for two weeks and my wife and I will be home alone.
We could use some romantic renewal time from our busy life.
We enjoy each other’s company yet I’d like to deepen our relationship, and our sex life could benefit from the patterns we’ve gotten into. Can you help?
Steamy Summer
Kalaheo
Aloha Steamy Summer,
When the kids are away, how spicy can the parents play? What a fun conundrum! There are so many ways to “get juicy” that this will be a two-part series.
The main theme is break from routine, renewing the love between you two.
Even if you’re working, create a fun nightly staycation or a mini-vacation.
Discuss your dreams, interests, challenges, etc. and how you want the relationship to grow.
By feeling closer emotionally, the physical side will naturally blossom. Choose from the following delicious menu of tips:
1. Mysterious Lover
Plan a short getaway to a local resort for a night or two or travel to a neighbor island. Meet in the bar and act as if you’ve never met. Ask her to take a stroll on the beach with you. Do your best to impress her with your romantic ways.
As you gently slide your hand into hers, invite her back to your room.
As things get passionate, expand your normal comfort zone. Allow your hearts to expand into more love as you pay keen attention to each other’s non-verbal clues.
2. Take Your Time
When it comes to lovemaking, slow it way down tiger. Create a playlist of love songs from YouTube, Spotify or on your iPod.
When the fireworks eventually go off, they’ll be more brilliant and you’ll both be smiling.
3. Top It Off With Chocolate Sauce
Cook a romantic dinner together in alluring lingerie. Have chocolate on the main course: macadamia crusted tilapia with white chocolate and coconut sauce or grilled steak with a red wine, dark chocolate sauce.
Can’t resist, go ahead and kiss passionately, remember the kids aren’t around.
4. Play the Newlywed Game
(NewlywedGameQuestions.com) Winner receives a relaxing aromatic massage from your partner.
5. Reconnect With Your Closest Friends
Host a cocktail party or have just your most intimate friends over. Tell them how grateful you are for their friendship. Plan an outing together in the near future.
6. Kama Sutra — Ancient Art Of Love
Explore new ways to please each other and deepen your spiritual connection through lovemaking. Check out books and videos on this luscious, divine art.
7. Sext Her
Send her some juicy texts a make her feel special: It’s all about you tonight. May I take your order?…
8. Afternoon Delight
Come home for lunch and enjoy a quickie.
9. Have Her Thinking About You All Day
Leave a romantic note for her to see on the kitchen table or on her car dashboard: “My love, I can’t wait to look into your sensual eyes. Be home at 6 p.m. Bubble bath, candles and chilled champagne will await you.”
10. “May I?”
While lying in bed ask your wife if it’s OK to kiss her? She’ll probably say yes. She’ll start to get turned on more and more with every question, as you aim to please her. Hopefully she’ll try this out on you too.
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Cary Valentine is a certified Relationship Coach (CRC), Author of the forthcoming book In Love Forever: 7 Secrets to a Joyous, Juicy Relationship, Relationship & Business Performance Expert. Reach him at (808) 346-6652 or cary@inloveforever.tv
